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Debate Score:13
Arguments:13
Total Votes:13
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Are parents too worried about being friends with their children?

Yes

Side Score: 9
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No

Side Score: 4

i think parents are worried about becoming to close to their children because they think they will lose their position of feeling in control of them. parents like to know what their children are doing and have a say in their choices.

Side: Yes
1 point

Parents should only be slightly friends with their children, enough to have that obvious trust, but I believe they should keep actual "friendship" on the down low, so to keep their child more comfortable around their peers rather than adults in their child to teenage years.

Side: Yes
1 point

Parents are definitely too worried about being friends with their children. Parents think that they need to be "cool" in order to have their kids like them. When a parent tries to become too close to their kids, they become a smothering parent. When a child becomes smothered, they soon forget (or fail to learn) how to operate on their own.

Side: Yes
1 point

Some parents are concerned that not being a friend to your child means you and your child arent close. Some parents try hard to be friends more than being a parent to your child.

Side: Yes
1 point

while parents want to be friends with their kids they should still accept the responsibility as parents and not give more slack to the children that are in trouble

Side: Yes
1 point

I think parents are very worried about being friends with their children. They don't want to be left out of their lives, and they feel like the only way to be included is to allow their children as much freedom as possible. This can cause problems in such ways that their children won't know what discipline is. Lack of discipline will make life harder for them in the future.

Side: Yes
1 point

I do think that parents are too worried about being friends with their children. Parents are concerned with the fact that they are being the "bad" parents so they let their children do what ever they want. They also try to fit in with their childrens' friends by doing what they do. I think that there's a time and a place for parents to be fun and "cool", but I don't think that they should try to become friends with them.

Side: Yes
1 point

a lot of kids get into a lot of trouble becasue of how much freedom their parents give them. a lot of parents do this so that their children hold them in high regards. its proably ok to be close to your children but discipline is an important part of parenting to keep kids in line

Side: Yes
1 point

I don't think that parents are as worried now about being friends with their kids. My parents tell me quite often that they are not here to be my friend, they are here to be my parent. They aren't old-fashioned by any means so I do believe that as a whole, most parents are not as worried about being friends now compared to 20 or 30 years ago.

Side: No
ehawkins(355) Disputed
1 point

So, you think that 20-30 years ago, people were trying to be friendlier with their children? So, your grandparents and your parents behaved more like friends than you and your parents?

Side: Yes
1 point

I think some parents are worried about becoming too "friendly" with their kids. They dont want to be in a position where they would be a "pushover" because they dont want to hurt their child's feelings. Or it looks bad.

But some parents are too much of a friend rather than a parent, let their kids run around and have them talk all about it and dont do anything when they hear 15 year old jimmy is out drinking with their friends.

Side: No
1 point

I think it's a good idea for them to be. Parents who are friends with their kids are in a better position to help them because their children feel more comfortable talking to them. Parents who maintain a purely authoritarian relationship with their kids are more likely to have kids who hide things from them and do things behind their backs. Kids should be comfortable talking to their parents about their troubles.

Side: No
1 point

On the whole (if I'm allowed to say that), I don't think parents are too worried. But I do believe they maintain some level of friendliness with their children, so that they're able to talk comfortably and openly with them. They're not so much friends as guides.

Side: No